The subject of the day, JEALOUSY, huh? Okay.
How would MJ's fans do with his marrying his LITD (if this had taken place prior June 25, 2009)?
First of all I want to mention that early on in this thread this subject was touched on (maybe even a few times), and Moddie, in her compassionate, sensitive and caring way, started a separate thread about this very same question you have brought up to us, Asedora.
I have often thought that one of the "side" purposes of this thread was to make the idea of Michael Jackson-one -day-soon-being-with-someone-he-truly-loves
more palpable to the fans...or at least to the bunch that visit and read here and who love romance.
I still remember a post where AllForMJ addressed this in her own special style...she's good at communicating! And that was she said something like, "One day fans are going to need to accept that the day is coming when MJ's head will be on one pillow and the woman he loves (LITD GIRL!) her head will be on that pillow right next to his." (I'm paraphrasing out of memory, sorry if I got the exact wording wrong).
So what things to think about could help those fans that can't accept it?
I can't begin to tell how important compatibility and having a true connection really is in a marriage relationship. If it is not in place, you could end up feeling very lonely even within the most sacred and intimate relationships ever.
How can any of us, based on knowing this man "from a distance" and never having ever spent long quality time with him, truly know if he would be all that compatible with any of us? In our heads it is very likely we've "created" a Michael Jackson that would be PERFECT for us...but if we are honest with ourselves...we would understand that we do not know that. Not really.
Now if in here, we are believing that God is the one behind MJ and his LITD girl...remember we had talked about maybe he sought out God to find him a love so divine...the right girl for him. If we fans can believe then that God could have done this for MJ, and the LITD girl appears (I'm talking pre-June 2009, of course) in his life...and he marries her, we then should understand that to mean that he is now with the ONE girl who is his MOST suitable match.
That would mean any of us would NOT be his most suitable match. We can love him with all our hearts, we can admire him greatly, we can wish he could be ours, but reasonable thinking would be that he is not meant for us nor are we meant for him (hope it's okay I'm using present tense, it's just coming out that way), and therefore, we really wouldn't be happy with him for long if we were to be in a romantic relationship with him.
So where does that leave a fan? That should alert them that there is someone ELSE still out there that would be more perfect for them than Michael...they just haven't met them yet. Isn't there some song out right now, that repeats that phrase over and over, "I just haven't met her yet!" The guy is going on and on about her and him and all that and then he admits he hasn't even met the girl yet...apparently he thinks it's just a matter of time. Maybe some fans need to hold on to that hope, that the right guy for them is out there...he's a comin'.
Now would MJ understand if he was here how fans are feeling about all this and the fact that they might feel intense jealousy if MJ were to have married someone (his LITD girl), meaning... not them?
Oh yes, MJ would have most definitey understood. Michael knows what it is like to build up something so strong in his head that he could become absolutley devestated when it doesn't seem to be working out for him... when it comes to females (well, maybe not just females when you consider the look on his face during the grammy awards and the album, Bad, was not being recognized like he had hoped...). And he knows about jealousy. We know in the far past he was capable of building some things up about someone. He admitted himself in a phone call with a friend that he realized that his idea of he and Diana Ross belonging together was just in his head. When he was a young man we know in the Encino home he had a whole room dedicated just for her ... full of her photos on the walls. We know that when she came back from another country with the man she met there and planned a wedding for all her friends to attend ...he couldn't do it. He couldn't pretend he was happy about it.
Why would he expect fans to pretend to be happy about he and his LITD girl finally getting together if they were in fact hurting over it?
We've already talked plenty about Who Is It in here. He walked around in a daze for quite awhile, it seems, mumbling such things like "I never was, we never were." He was not doing very well at all accepting the "possibility" that his LITD girl was with someone else.
Now I wish fans would slow up in calling her a "cheater" or view her as some kind of "cold monster" based on this song...because really, based on the lyrics, that is not being said at all...he does not know if she is with some other guy, he is just guessing maybe that could be it, and he doesn't know for sure if she is not returning or never could return his feelings, but something is making him think by some perception of his own, that she no way is or could. He's lost all hope for some reason, and his mind is taking off with full pessimism.
And it is important not to base one's opinion of the LITD girl on the girl in the short film, Who Is It, for that was not MJ's own concept for a short film for that song...he was very busy, off touring for the Dangerous tour, and left that video in the hands of others. He only came for a very short period of time to film his few scenes, and we know he left even a few of those for a stand in. So that is not the interpretation to use when trying to understand the lyrics for Who Is It.
I think it is very possible that we have the song Who Is It, and all it's intense lyrics and emotion and hurt and confusion and exasperation due to a conversation Michael had with Minister Louis Farrakhan. If you have watched the interview tapes with Raffles you would maybe remember Farrakhan speaking of a time when Johnny Cochran was MJ's lawyer (late eighties, I think) and Johnny asked Farrakhan if he might go talk with Michael for he was in a depression. What Farrakhan tells us he said to Michael, was for Michael to put all his "pain" into his art...to get it out that way and let the pain work for good through his creative outlet (paraphrasing from memory again). And I would say that is exactly what MJ did in the song Who Is It. He let the pain all hang out; and it is an amazing, amazing song...one of his best...some might even say his best.
We know that young Michael had trouble with his older brothers all marrying and said (according to the dialog in The Jackson's American Dream) "How can you do this to our fans?!" So MJ has always known how fans look at the one/s that is/are their idol/s and feel romantic feelings for them. He gets that. That is probably why he said the fans who come to my gate are like my dates. I'm sure he often pondered on how he could satisfy this area in his private/personal life and still make everyone happy with the King of Pop. Quite the challenge.
All this to say, is jealousy is part of being human, and it is difficult to fight, and Michael himself has fought with jealousy as well. But it can be worked through in time.
(little by little reading this over to fix typos, I may no longer be queen g, but I am still the typo queen! I'm also good at interchanging words when I go fast...I meant "palpable" not "pliable." gah!)
