just stop the hate.. it doesent bring anything good!
Michael did'nt hate his father.. maybe they was'nt the closest, but he did'nt use hate as a term for relationships.
Instead look at what Michael became. Theres no use of "but if.." either. His childhood and life was like this. He found his place in the world, and he learned to live like that.
I can assure you that Joe's way of treating Michael ment alot for how he became such a wonderfull and brightsighted person. Because he grew up thinking that he would'nt want to be like that to his children. He would'nt want to do anything egoistic in this world.
Theres no white without black.
You can't understand what the truely blessed love is like if you havent felt a pain in your life.
People are different, and for different reasons. Joe has a heart too. He loved his son, and he loves his living family as much. But he is just a different kind of person.
Not to say that it should be accepted to hurt your children, but thats whats happened.
Michael put that part of his history behind him. We should try to do the same for his sake.