You are not, it so appears. Plastic surgery does not disrespect one's body, nor does it respect it. It's simply an alteration. Everything has its risks, and everything should be done within reason. What this woman did was stupid, undoubtedly--the size she was hoping to be was truly unnatural, and would have made her grossly disproportionate, which would have created physical problems for her later on in life.
As for exposure and so-called "class"? These are invented concepts with no real relevance attributed to them. Perhaps the girls who "show off" their bodies in such manner are just extremely confident, and the ones who don't and hide behind the 'class' argument are just insecure and secretly jealous? Perhaps not. Either way, the concept of "class" is an idiotic one, and the argument for it is wholly non-existent, as the idea itself is based upon an assumed shame of nudity or exposure, which is in itself completely ludicrous.
How do you know they cannot love themselves? That seems to be more an assumption than a rational statement. Loving yourself, to me, is a personal and wholly emotional thing--devoid of reason, subject to no specific interpretation, and completely relative to the person concerned. Perhaps they love themselves so much that they don't want to get a "real" job, and prefer to earn good money the easy way.
Judging whether one loves oneself or not based on one's profession seems illogical to me. We are to assume, then, that professionally successful people love themselves? Then, those whose professions are lowly (i.e. some sort of postal worker, grocery store clerk, etc.) despise themselves, and think they can't do better? The profession you choose seems more a matter of ambition than "loving yourself." Some really conventionally successful people can't stand to look at themselves in the mirror, and truly despise themselves, despite their conventional success. Some not so professionally successful people really love themselves, and feel comfortable and happy where they're at.
I don't know. If she was loved, balanced, and well-educated, but shrewd and unwilling to devote herself to a life of corporate slavery like the rest of us, and was beautiful on top of that--I think pornography seems to be the way to go. I still fail to see what love or lack thereof has to do with being a porn star? I would think that the two concepts were separate--plenty of porn stars are loved and balanced, perhaps even well-educated. Plenty of people who are unloved, unbalanced, and uneducated are not. Correlation nonexistent, it appears.
What is the way to have sex? If you think it's between two consenting adults who love each other in the "sanctity" of marriage, I'm afraid this is a pretty recent concept, and is not
the way to have sex. See reply to Alma for an explanation of sex and marriage before the 1950's.
The way to have sex, originally, was actually closer to pornography than to the fanciful picture most religious people like to paint. It fails to match pornography because, unlike it, the desire stemmed from a need to procreate and therefore ensure the continuation of the species, rather than for pleasure alone. Of course, in the original way to have sex, people were not monogamous--but rather polygamous--as being evolved primates, and mammals, we are biologically polygamous creatures.
I sympathize with your views that society is indeed superficial, but when you look at it through a biological perspective, it makes excellent sense, especially for females to be more concerned about their appearance. Males are visually-oriented creatures because biology deems them so--they are biologically wired to pay attention to the most attractive female (i.e. the one with the desired traits: large breasts, almost perfectly symmetrical face, large lips, full hips, etc.) because all of these traits tell the male that this female is fertile and therefore a good match to carry his offspring. Females, on the other hand, are less visually oriented and more security-oriented (inclined to pay attention to the alpha male in the room, the one with the most status, more financial stability, etc.) which also makes excellent sense because he would support her offspring better. So, in a way, the superficiality in both males and females is very much rooted in biology, and therefore understandable.
I still love your beautiful personality, though.
