i think
the safest way in this world is, remove the uneveness between "our heart-mirror VS the real one", "the expectation VS truth". if we won't be knocked down inner, we won't fail. for example, those poor children(or the children living in war) always find their funs even in such a condition.
but the uneveness between "the expectation VS truth" is so true, and the expection/dream... etc. is sth. good, so...... how can we reach such a safest way? the answer is, an open way for each other is safe, we can adjust the uneverness anytime, keep the uneveness between "the expectation VS truth" in a balance, in a suitable size.
the most dangerous way is on the opposite, the expectation had been accumulated such a height, and it never ever got chance to be proved in real life. if it fell/failed, it would break that much because of the huge uneveness. if it was in a open way, then it can adjust on and on, even there was sth. unsuitable or wrong and need to be adjusted or rebuilded, it won't be broken that much. whatever in our mind or the real life, we can easily bear that damage.
somehow i can understand the fears in your mind, because... all the time you keep on the most dangerous way, in the final plunge you had to stand such a huge possibility of the high uneveness, then even a small mood can postpone your step, then "peng!" it was my heart fell on the ground...... ahhhhhhhh what can i do, to help you, and save my heart from this stalemate?
that's why, i ask you cast yourself into the enviroment that you can't withdraw again. it's almost the most effecient way that can work... sigh honey honey just be careful, my heart had been broken so many times in such a short time, almost draged me into a total desperate state... you and me hardly bear another breaking...