Playboy Founder Hugh Hefner (84) Will Marry Playmate Crystal Harris (24) - A 60 Year Age Difference!

[Misayko]

i dont understand what you have.
im 20 and i would have married michael. hes 32 years older, so what
and if hes 80, i wouldnt care.
so maybe this girl is in love? but maybe not, we.ll never know :smilerolleyes:

 

[Ashtanga]

She must be so in love for him ($$$$$$$). :smilerolleyes: *sarcasm*

60 years is a big age difference. -_-


:fear:

 

[if.it.aint.broke.break.it]

As long as they're both happy.

 

[Severus Snape]

She must be so in love for him ($$$$$$$). :smilerolleyes: *sarcasm*

60 years is a big age difference. -_-


:fear:

You don't know that for certain, and no, not really. Mentally, you could be in sync with someone who is physically a lot older than you. What does it matter that there are x number of years between you, physically, if in the realm of the mind you are perfectly matched?

 

[Ashtanga]

You don't know that for certain, and no, not really. Mentally, you could be in sync with someone who is physically a lot older than you. What does it matter that there are x number of years between you, physically, if in the realm of the mind you are perfectly matched?

Maybe.... In this case, I think are rare cases where love is true without any interest ($$$). :fear:

 

[Severus Snape]

Maybe.... In this case, I think are rare cases where love is true without any interest ($$$). :fear:

There are many cases, even among people who are physically the same age, where one uses the other--for sex, for money as well, and there are emotional parasites among every sort of relationship as well. Why is it that the relationships with age-disparities are judged more so than the so-called "normal" relationships, when the latter have proved themselves to be just as f***ed up, if not more so, than the ones before them?

When someone sees two teenagers together, they don't think, "Oh, that bloke's probably using that young girl for sex, or I bet she's gunna get pregnant, lolololololol," which is actually probably closer to the truth. They generally seem to think such things are "cute," when in fact more often than not, those relationships are completely dysfunctional.

In any case, people are nothing.

The point I am intending to drive home is, we are no one to assume what another's motives are, or to just judge a relationship based on whatever secondary, society-induced perceptions we have. Whatever the motives are, it's private business.

To finish it, I will add-- cases were love is truly without a secondary interest are rare, overall, not just in relationships where there is an age gap.

 

[xMichellex]

I have to disagree with the person above. I do not know if this is just a uk thing but there is a lot of judgement towards teenage romance and a lot of nudging and pregnancy pending assumptions. Personally though I would think any couple of the same or a similar age would have more in common than a couple with a large gap in age. I have dated both older men and men similar to my age and have found it harder to connect with older men. They tend to talk down to you as if you were stupid and you find you have little to talk about as you're from different generations. Even things like getting nostalgic does not happen because their nostalgia you were not born during and your own nostalgia they tend to brush off and be like "yah but it was not as good as the 60's" or whatever and tend to make out that you know nothing because you are from a later generation. You find you change a lot between your teens and thirties whilst someone a lot older has pretty much done all their changing. There is not much you can talk about, your childhood would have been totally different, from your education to the tv programmes you watched. Whilst it is interesting to learn about other generations there is little to relate to if you're from a different time which I find gets dull very quickly. It's like being at a family gathering and the older generation start talking about War stories. Whilst it is interesting to hear this stuff you cannot actually join in or relate to what they speak of if you were not around during that time so it is not a conversation as such, just them talking and you listening and having a history lesson. Whereas someone who remembers the same things happening at the same age you do provokes a conversation that is flowing free back and forth. Well that is how I see it anyway.

 

[Severus Snape]

I have to disagree with the person above. I do not know if this is just a uk thing but there is a lot of judgement towards teenage romance and a lot of nudging and pregnancy pending assumptions. Personally though I would think any couple of the same or a similar age would have more in common than a couple with a large gap in age. I have dated both older men and men similar to my age and have found it harder to connect with older men. They tend to talk down to you as if you were stupid and you find you have little to talk about as you're from different generations. Even things like getting nostalgic does not happen because their nostalgia you were not born during and your own nostalgia they tend to brush off and be like "yah but it was not as good as the 60's" or whatever and tend to make out that you know nothing because you are from a later generation. You find you change a lot between your teens and thirties whilst someone a lot older has pretty much done all their changing. There is not much you can talk about, your childhood would have been totally different, from your education to the tv programmes you watched. Whilst it is interesting to learn about other generations there is little to relate to if you're from a different time which I find gets dull very quickly. It's like being at a family gathering and the older generation start talking about War stories. Whilst it is interesting to hear this stuff you cannot actually join in or relate to what they speak of if you were not around during that time so it is not a conversation as such, just them talking and you listening and having a history lesson. Whereas someone who remembers the same things happening at the same age you do provokes a conversation that is flowing free back and forth. Well that is how I see it anyway.

Perhaps it is that way for normal people. I, for one, find that being in the company of my so-called peers gets dull rather instantly. Then again, I hate people.

The only men I've ever understood, and who have ever understood me, have been significantly older than I. It seems like, although we are arguing from different perspectives, the idea is essentially the same-- the mental connection between two people either exists or does not exist. In your case, as most likely is the case for average people judging by the trend, the connections are mostly found among others of similar physical age, because your mind and body are in sync when it comes to age--in other words, you are developmentally normal, like most people.

Others, however, find that they get along better based on their mental level with people who are older, or younger than themselves, depending on where they truly see themselves in the constellation of our collective mind. I find that I have nothing in common with the people I am supposedly, and irritatingly, pigeonholed with. That's just me, though.

 

[xMichellex]

^ Although saying that, you are 19 and you are, whilst obviously intelligent, also very obviously 19. If you had not stated your age in this thread I still would have guessed it to be around this age. This is not any sort of insult, and what I am trying to point out is that at 19 a lot of people your age are still very immature, which can be frustrating for someone who actually acts their age. In the years between say now and 30 you will find what you believe now to be a huge gap between you and your peers will start to bridge as they start to mature and obviously you will mature too and be less frustrated by them (tolerance comes with age and maturity).

 

[MJstarlight]

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[Ashtanga]

 

[Severus Snape]

^ Although saying that, you are 19 and you are, whilst obviously intelligent, also very obviously 19. If you had not stated your age in this thread I still would have guessed it to be around this age. This is not any sort of insult, and what I am trying to point out is that at 19 a lot of people your age are still very immature, which can be frustrating for someone who actually acts their age. In the years between say now and 30 you will find what you believe now to be a huge gap between you and your peers will start to bridge as they start to mature and obviously you will mature too and be less frustrated by them (tolerance comes with age and maturity).

Hm.
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[xMichellex]

^ Da ;-)

 

[Severus Snape]

^ Da ;-)

Nein. It's no real use arguing, because you don't really know me, nor my situation. I respect your perspective, but that's certainly not it.

 

[Agent M]

Crystal Harris: Why I Couldn't Marry Hugh Hefner

Crystal Harris finally feels like herself again.

Hugh Hefner's runaway bride says the decision to call off Saturday's nuptials was a big relief.

"For a while, I'd been having second thoughts about everything, so I haven't really been at peace with myself lately," Harris, 25, told Ryan Seacrest Wednesday morning on his KIIS-FM radio show. "It was all just happening too fast for me."

"I just sat back and thought about it all," she continued. "Is this what I wanted? And it wasn't."

Harris says the Playboy chief – although heartbroken – took the news with tact.

"There was no fight," explains July's Playboy cover girl, prematurely identified as "Mrs. Crystal Hefner." "He understood, and we both agreed that it wasn't the best idea to get married. He was doing it for me because he thought it was what I wanted."

Harris, who says she "wanted to be true to myself," admits, "This isn't the lifestyle for me."

But don't expect Hefner, 85, to find a replacement for his ex-fiancée.

"No, no," Harris tells Seacrest when he asks if the mogul will ever tie the knot again. "He said he was just doing this wedding for me."

As for now, Harris says she is "not seeing someone else," but she is staying busy.

"[I'm] working on a whole album," she says. "I sing and I write. I've been writing songs and I've been having so much fun with it all."

Crystal Harris: Why I Couldn't Marry Hugh Hefner - Breakups, Broken Engagements, Crystal Harris, Hugh Hefner : People.com

The July 2011 issue of Playboy magazine had intended to introduce Harris as 'Mrs. Hefner' but the decision to call off the wedding made the production of an amended edition necessary.

 

[Severus Snape]

It seems a bit cruel to have called off the wedding so close to the date of the event, neh? People are dysfunctional, that's why I've always been repulsed by human relationships.

 

[Courtney]

I'm in no position to judge.

P.S. I'm 17 and I like men in their 30s. Not everyone likes 20 year old guys.

I won't judge either. I'm also 17 and I love older men. Not 84 years old but I do find a lot of older men in the 30's, 40's, and 50's attractive. A man is a man. However, on Hugh's part, he's been with a lot of women...a lot...Must be what's keeping him healthy. hehe.

 

[kindofdisco]

Each to their own! Hugh is a pretty out there guy, I guess that's what he's known for!

 

[Darth Sidious]

It seems a bit cruel to have called off the wedding so close to the date of the event, neh? People are dysfunctional, that's why I've always been repulsed by human relationships.

youre a misanthrope i think but i agrree on the timing of it.

 

[Lady S]

All I can say to this is "until the next fake-tanned, fake-blonde, fake-boobed" (or any one of the three) woman comes along."

 

[Ashtanga]

Crystal Harris: Why I Couldn't Marry Hugh Hefner

Crystal Harris finally feels like herself again.

Hugh Hefner's runaway bride says the decision to call off Saturday's nuptials was a big relief.

"For a while, I'd been having second thoughts about everything, so I haven't really been at peace with myself lately," Harris, 25, told Ryan Seacrest Wednesday morning on his KIIS-FM radio show. "It was all just happening too fast for me."

"I just sat back and thought about it all," she continued. "Is this what I wanted? And it wasn't."

Harris says the Playboy chief – although heartbroken – took the news with tact.

"There was no fight," explains July's Playboy cover girl, prematurely identified as "Mrs. Crystal Hefner." "He understood, and we both agreed that it wasn't the best idea to get married. He was doing it for me because he thought it was what I wanted."

Harris, who says she "wanted to be true to myself," admits, "This isn't the lifestyle for me."

But don't expect Hefner, 85, to find a replacement for his ex-fiancée.

"No, no," Harris tells Seacrest when he asks if the mogul will ever tie the knot again. "He said he was just doing this wedding for me."

As for now, Harris says she is "not seeing someone else," but she is staying busy.

"[I'm] working on a whole album," she says. "I sing and I write. I've been writing songs and I've been having so much fun with it all."

Crystal Harris: Why I Couldn't Marry Hugh Hefner - Breakups, Broken Engagements, Crystal Harris, Hugh Hefner : People.com

The July 2011 issue of Playboy magazine had intended to introduce Harris as 'Mrs. Hefner' but the decision to call off the wedding made the production of an amended edition necessary.

I'm sure he is not devastated. -_- Believe... he will move on and soon he will be with another young woman.

I do find a lot of older men in the 30's, 40's, and 50's attractive. A man is a man. However, on Hugh's part, he's been with a lot of women...a lot...Must be what's keeping him healthy. hehe.

:shifty: :naughty:

 

[Word Smith Sr]

:shifty: :naughty:

Haha !!!!

 

[kissybissy]

She realized it would be a huge mistake. Money can't buy everything!

 

[Agent M]

Hugh Hefner Marries on New Year's Eve

Octogenarian Playboy founder Hugh Hefner poses with his bride Crystal Harris and dog Charlie at their New Year Eve wedding at the Playboy Mansion in Beverly Hills, California in this handout photo taken on December 31, 2012. Hefner briefly swapped his iconic silk pajamas for a tuxedo to marry Harris, the one-time "runaway bride" who followed through this time at the New Year's Eve wedding. The couple tied the knot more than a year after their planned 2011 wedding was scuttled when Harris got cold feet. REUTERS/Elayne Lodge/PEI/Handout

Playboy boss Hugh Hefner has wed his girlfriend Crystal Harris.

The 86-year-old publishing tycoon and 26-year-old Harris exchanged vows at the Playboy Mansion in Beverly Hills, California on Monday.

The excited bride kept fans updated about her big day with posts on Twitter.com; in one she wrote, "Today is the day I become Mrs. Hugh Hefner. Feeling very happy, lucky, and blessed."

She also uploaded a picture of staffers setting up the altar, alongside a caption which read, "The mansion is looking beautiful #weddingbells".

Hefner and Harris were originally set to walk down the aisle last year, but the model-turned-lingerie store owner got cold feet and called off the wedding. They reconciled in May and Hefner proposed again earlier this month, announcing he was planning to ring in 2013 as a married man.

This is his third marriage - he was married to Mildred Williams from 1949 to 1959, and he wed Kimberley Conrad in 1989. The couple divorced in 2010.

http://www.torontosun.com/2012/12/31/hugh-hefner-marries-on-new-years-eve

 

[Snow White luvs Peter Pan]

Didn't she dump him in 2011?

 

[Ashtanga]

Hugh Hefner Marries on New Year's Eve

Octogenarian Playboy founder Hugh Hefner poses with his bride Crystal Harris and dog Charlie at their New Year Eve wedding at the Playboy Mansion in Beverly Hills, California in this handout photo taken on December 31, 2012. Hefner briefly swapped his iconic silk pajamas for a tuxedo to marry Harris, the one-time "runaway bride" who followed through this time at the New Year's Eve wedding. The couple tied the knot more than a year after their planned 2011 wedding was scuttled when Harris got cold feet. REUTERS/Elayne Lodge/PEI/Handout

Playboy boss Hugh Hefner has wed his girlfriend Crystal Harris.

The 86-year-old publishing tycoon and 26-year-old Harris exchanged vows at the Playboy Mansion in Beverly Hills, California on Monday.

The excited bride kept fans updated about her big day with posts on Twitter.com; in one she wrote, "Today is the day I become Mrs. Hugh Hefner. Feeling very happy, lucky, and blessed."

She also uploaded a picture of staffers setting up the altar, alongside a caption which read, "The mansion is looking beautiful #weddingbells".

Hefner and Harris were originally set to walk down the aisle last year, but the model-turned-lingerie store owner got cold feet and called off the wedding. They reconciled in May and Hefner proposed again earlier this month, announcing he was planning to ring in 2013 as a married man.

This is his third marriage - he was married to Mildred Williams from 1949 to 1959, and he wed Kimberley Conrad in 1989. The couple divorced in 2010.

http://www.torontosun.com/2012/12/31/hugh-hefner-marries-on-new-years-eve

Hmmmmmmmmmmm :shifty: :fear:

 

[qbee]

Didn't she dump him in 2011?

They reconsiled

Hefner and Harris were originally set to walk down the aisle last year, but the model-turned-lingerie store owner got cold feet and called off the wedding. They reconciled in May and Hefner proposed again earlier this month, announcing he was planning to ring in 2013 as a married man.