If it is so private, then how are all of these photos and videos ending up becoming PUBLIC? I'll tell you how. . .disrespectful "fans", attention whores, etc. Cemeteries are a place to bury/entomb/lay to rest the dead, FIRST and foremost.
I never said it was private, I stated the opposite: I said it was accessible. The plots themselves are privately owned.
Mike's memory isn't being respected by hordes of people feeling they are somehow entitled to grieve there because they loved him and mourn him. Cemeteries are full of people that are loved. That doesn't allow for the desecration and disrespect I've seen for the dead (and not just the famous).
"Somehow entitled to grieve?" Do you understand what grief is? It's not an action. It's a psychological process, that you clearly have not yet acknowledged in yourself, and I'm sorry for you. The physical behaviors one goes through when bereaved is not the same as the grief itself. It is a process.
Also, cemeteries aren't full of people - frankly, they're full of bodies and remains. The living created them as a way of honoring the dead, but believe me there's no biological reason for them. The dead don't just grow their own marble stones and pretty garden plots as time goes on - we do that for them because we're the ones left behind and have to find a way to process the loss.
Seriously, crack open DSM-IV and learn you something.
The "entitlement" to grieve is inherent in being human, period. I never once said that myself or any other fan or anyone should have unrestricted access. I just said that for myself, I know it would ease the pain I feel. Nobody grieves the same way.
Should the dead buried in the same building as Mike have their resting place disturbed to allow for his fans to grieve? NO.
Michael's plot is one of several hundred in that buildling. Believe it or not, property owners go in and out of there all the time and manage to leave him alone. In fact, they leave everyone else's plots alone. It's amazing. It's almost like they know that they're there only for their own business.
Do you know what it means to "disturb" a resting place? Because I don't think you do. No one is trying to rob his grave or make away with it (not like they could, it's huge). People go to pay their respects. They go to leave things there - sometimes a gift, but usually just a little peace and quiet and a bit of love. I don't get what it is this concept you don't understand. People do this all the time, and in fact there are several holidays in the US that we spend performing these rituals.
You don't have to be near his body to mourn him. And, as a fan (and I'm including myself, too) we are not entitled access to be near his tomb. And I stand by my earlier post where I said that anyone that DOES have legitimate access to it should lose it if it is abused.
You know absolutely nothing about me. You know nothing. You have no idea what my experience has been like, my story, or anything at all. Not anymore than I know yours. Maybe YOU don't need that experience, or maybe you are just so deeply envious of those who have had the opportunity that you seek to tear others down about it. But you have absolutely no right to tell others how they do or do not need to grieve, or feel, or anything like that.
And honestly, by your own logic, no one should ever be allowed to go near his tomb. Here's a bit of news: Michael is dead. He can't see his sanctuary. He can't get out and walk around and enjoy it. He has no concept of its peacefulness or beauty. He has zero concept. Know why? Because he isn't the one experiencing it. He certainly doesn't
need or is
entitled to the beautiful setting he's in right now. But that's where his remains are, because that's what those who are left behind felt would be best for their comfort - they can say for him, but really, he's dead and couldn't care less. It's blunt but it's biological truth. His place is stunning and certainly befitting his tastes, but he's not around to really pass any judgment on it one way or another. He didn't arrange it. What would he care? He's dead and has no use of it. But those who love him and had the means and decision-making authority DO have use of it, and DO care. Do you understand what I mean?
So he should just be left in there forever and ever and ever and ever and NO ONE should ever even THINK about going to see it because oh my god, coming within a mile of it is disrespectful to his privacy?! Girl, he is
entombed. His casket is literally under a pile of concrete and the marble encasing it is sealed. There is no privacy of his to violate anymore. Not there. Violating his privacy is what Karen Faye did by describing his remains in sensationalized detail. Going to visit his grave is not, because it's there TO BE VISITED.
While there are codes of conduct in place at FL and they have blanket policies, you are not the sole authority on what is and isn't abuse of privately owned property, unless you own it. While I don't have access to the list, I'm just going to go out on a limb here and guess that you don't, either. The person who has final say is that who signed the deed for it...which I'm pretty sure is either Katherine, Janet, or maybe even the Estate, I don't know. I know Janet mostly took care of the private funeral but I can't remember who actually purchased the plot.
And, despite your declaration, I never challenged or even mentioned any disagreement that those who abuse their access should be banned or suspended. I agree. But you aren't the person to make that decision, and your language/behavior suggest you don't entirely understand that. You are no more the authority on Michael's plot than you are over fans' behavior.
If the family chooses to let someone inside, they will. If they think that someone is abusive or disrespectful, I have confidence they will handle the situation swiftly.
I never said the fans should be ENTITLED, I said that I would appreciate an opportunity to visit his grave up close for a few minutes. That means I understand and respect the fact that it is privately monitored. Comprehension skills: learn them. Objective discussion: learn how to do it.
TL; DR get off your sanctimonious, paranoid, controlling high horse and stop inferring things I or any other fan did/didn't say, and learn that you have absolutely NO say in how anyone grieves. Period.
As for that tirade, reibish, death isn't new to me and neither is the many times I've dealt with it on a close family level. I don't need to crack open a book or "learn something" about it. Btw, I didn't say anything that was out of turn or not true; there are people all over this PLANET that are mourning Mike and they haven't set foot in this country, much less anywhere near Forest Lawn and they don't need to or maybe don't want to. That is fine, that is alright, that is ok. In another thread I mentioned that I don't visit my parents' graves (and they mean much more to me than Mike), so this being "envious" of people that went to Forest Lawn is ridiculous at best. That isn't a necessity to mourn someone, but if that helps some, so be it.