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Do you believe in love at first sight and is this real?

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So I met my Michael when i first started working back in March back in november of 09 I was coming back and fourth to the place where i work at to give in my paper work. Every time up until i started working at this place we would lock eyes with each other this is the first time i ever felt nervous around a man when he looks at me i will turn the other way everytime he would try to talk to me i would just say hello and keep it moving. So June of this year he ask me out its been a year and six months sense i been in a relationship my last horrible boygfriend did me so dirty i lost weight, my hair and depression a year ago over the pain he put me through. With Michael its something totally different he so sweet and generous something that i am not use to cause i always got my heart broken we have so much in common. So at this point i'm on some whateva but he really feeling me so hard we click like magic i do what ever i can not to get that deep but he is all over me. I am taking it real slow with him but that fact that he is talking about Marriage is scaring me holla at ya girl about this love at first sight? mess....have u ever fell for some one?

P.S he says I am the better to his biscuits :lol: i mean he do try to say something sweet but at times he is corny with his sayings
 
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I personally don't. I could be infatuated at first sight, but to love someone I'd need to interact with them and be around them for quite a while.
 
I kinda do :cheeky: I don't think you get love at first sight when you just see someone across the room, because that could be a lot of different feelings and its probably hard to tell at the time. But you know you've found someone special when in that first conversation or so, you have that unique click with them, or you can go on for ages talking to them or just being in their presence. Then again, circumstances might inhibit it from happening "at first sight", so love can just as well happen not so immediately too :)
 
I do believe in an instant connection and love in the sense of intense emotion, not necessarily the kind experienced after months or years' worth of attachment. Having recently experienced such a thing, it would be foolish of me to state otherwise. This guy sounds like he's a sweetheart, even if his sayings verge on the corny. It's better to have a sweet, corny guy than a jerk who doesn't give you the respect you so rightfully deserve, after all.

I can relate to your nervousness and the whole eye contact thing. When I am in the vicinity of the guy I like, I get incredibly self-conscious and I start trembling and blushing. One time, I almost dropped my cup of coffee! Certainly not the sort of behaviour one would normally expect from cool, collected me. Still, love makes fools out of even the best of us.

I knew I was attracted the second I set sight on him, which is extremely rare for me to do. It's never happened, actually. All my past interests have taken time to develop--this is the first time I have fallen for someone at literally first sight. The first conversation we had, the way his eyes met mine, and the way they sparkled...and the smile that followed. I was done right there. Conquered. So sad.

I hate every moment of it.

Anyway, good luck with your guy. Sounds like you've got something good going on. He should slow down a bit though--marriage already lol. But hey, just enjoy it I guess. He seems really sweet. =)
 
I don't believe in "love" if you mean in relationship.
That is my experience.
 
I don't think there is such a thing as "love" at first sight. Physical attraction - yes. Love - no, I don't think you can really love someone until you know them.

You can be physically attracted to someone but then upon getting to know them realise they are a complete psycho, and therefore it is unlikely you would love them for the person they are. Love is a much deeper thing that happens when you spend a lot of time with someone getting to really know them and then start to love who they are.
 
I don't believe in true love at first sight...as others have noted, I also believe that you can't love someone unless and until you actually know them. I do believe there can be an instant connection (not necessarily physical) that is very strong and feels very right and meant to be. I know this because when I was 16, I met a young man named, John. He was 20. We had an instant, strong connection. And it wasn't long before we fell in love.

And we just celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary. :)
 
Oh, I forgot to add, I don't believe in reciprocated love in the case of certain people. Some people aren't meant to be loved. As they say, some are the lovers, some are the loved. Very few are both at once.
 
Suzie1 said:
Do you still have contact to him or talk to him?
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No...I don"t. Maybe for the better, you know.
That was a very, very passionate relationship but we ended up with different people.
I saw him about 6 months ago...we were driving cars in oposite directions.
We saw each other for a few seconds. It was a crazy feeling...like a shocking-butterflies.
Oh...now I have memories coming back...:D
 
Aww okay... Did you talk with him when you saw him? :)

I have many memories too, with a boy. But we don't talk so much anymore.. He turns into a idiot, so..
But I miss those memories I had with him in 3-4 years..
 
zpredra5 said:
I had a love like that once.
We are not together now but I still think about him....after many years.
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I once had a platonic love with someone with whom I was very close. I haven't seen him in years either, but I still think of him. He was the last living person I was close with, and when we parted ways, it was the worst. I still miss him and the easiness with which we talked about anything. Whenever I was upset or had a problem, he would listen. He was the closest thing to a prince I've ever had (not counting Michael), or to someone who actually gave a damn for that matter. I really loved him, but could never make my feelings known. Sometimes I wonder if he loved me too. We'll never know.

Anyway, your story with that guy sounds interesting, how you saw each other driving in opposite directions. It's funny how life plays out its metaphors in literal sense. Still, it must have been electric to experience that split moment of complete sync, before going opposite ways.
 
mikagesouji said:
I once had a platonic love with someone with whom I was very close. I haven't seen him in years either, but I still think of him. He was the last living person I was close with, and when we parted ways, it was the worst. I still miss him and the easiness with which we talked about anything. Whenever I was upset or had a problem, he would listen. He was the closest thing to a prince I've ever had (not counting Michael), or to someone who actually gave a damn for that matter. I really loved him, but could never make my feelings known. Sometimes I wonder if he loved me too. We'll never know.

Anyway, your story with that guy sounds interesting, how you saw each other driving in opposite directions. It's funny how life plays out its metaphors in literal sense. Still, it must have been electric to experience that split moment of complete sync, before going opposite ways.
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This is a very nice way you have described it. It was excatly like that.:yes:
I loved that guy for years but we were never in a serious relationship.
We used to be together for a while and then we would go separate ways.
But when we did...it was heaven. It was everything you read in a book...
Maybe that is the reason why I still think about him...who knows how things would be if we ended up together.
I am sorry your love-story ended that way..it sounds like a real-thing.:(
 
I believe in 'lust at first sight'. Lust, that could potentially evolve into love.
 
zpredra5 said:
This is a very nice way you have described it. It was excatly like that.:yes:
I loved that guy for years but we were never in a serious relationship.
We used to be together for a while and then we would go separate ways.
But when we did...it was heaven. It was everything you read in a book...
Maybe that is the reason why I still think about him...who knows how things would be if we ended up together.
I am sorry your love-story ended that way..it sounds like a real-thing.:(
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In a way, we didn't really need to be in a relationship. We are soulmates because of the special way in which we connected. Perhaps you and this guy are also soulmates. I believe you can have more than one soulmate.

Yeah, it's a pity nothing came out of it. He was almost forty years older than I. *giggles* I'll never forget him. He even gave me a card when he left. ^_^

I still have it. I brought it with me and it's sitting on my desk near my television right now, along with a card one of my teachers gave me last year for my good reading insights and mature outlook.
 
mikagesouji said:
I once had a platonic love with someone with whom I was very close. I haven't seen him in years either, but I still think of him. He was the last living person I was close with, and when we parted ways, it was the worst. I still miss him and the easiness with which we talked about anything. Whenever I was upset or had a problem, he would listen. He was the closest thing to a prince I've ever had (not counting Michael), or to someone who actually gave a damn for that matter. I really loved him, but could never make my feelings known. Sometimes I wonder if he loved me too. We'll never know.
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I can relate to that, it's painful. I was/ still am in love with one of my friends who is a level 3 sex offender. Before he got in trouble, we'd spend a lot of time together at school. When he got in trouble, it tore me up. I wanted to help him, but it was too late. I also wanted to tell him that i had fallen for him, i didn't do that either. Now, i wish i did.
 
sweet princess said:
I can relate to that, it's painful. I was/ still am in love with one of my friends who is a level 3 sex offender. Before he got in trouble, we'd spend a lot of time together at school. When he got in trouble, it tore me up. I wanted to help him, but it was too late. I also wanted to tell him that i had fallen for him, i didn't do that either. Now, i wish i did.
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So, if you don't mind my asking, how is it that he's a level three? Well, love does what it does and I am sure there must be a good reason why you love him. It is definitely painful, and I wonder how he would react if you told him.

Telling mine is completely out of the question now--I haven't seen him in years. I would love to see him again, just one last time.
 
"Do you believe in love at first sight and is this real?"

Sure, of course. You have to experience that for yourself though, in order to believe it. You can absolutely "know" someone so intensely the first moment, as if you knew them forever- probably because you did, maybe just not in this life. I know most people consider reincarnation way out there, and unless you felt it, it sounds bizarre and more like "wishful thinking".

And it doesn't have to be particularly "lusty" either, although it certainly can be part of it.

Along with that can sort of come a weird intuitive knowledge about someone and random flashes about what's gonna happen- and it all happens.

Yep, can be true. Having said that, that's no guarantee either, but sure, it happens.
To top that off, yes, you can have a connection like that more than once, simply when you have an incredible, innate knowledge about someone that's so intense, that you just pick up the pieces where you left off in the last life.
I've known exactly 2 men when I didn't have to say anything and they knew with eerie knowledge what was going on underneath my hat and with that kind of connection you don't have to ask either, hey, what's going on.


Happy lovin'.
 
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mikagesouji said:
So, if you don't mind my asking, how is it that he's a level three? Well, love does what it does and I am sure there must be a good reason why you love him. It is definitely painful, and I wonder how he would react if you told him.
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He was convicted of indesent liberties on 9/15/04. He was released on 1/23/06. The girl he was dating was one of my friends, after she made those accusations, i quit being her friend. I couldn't stand to be anywhere near her, that's how mad i was at her. She tried to tell me what Seth did to her, but i didn't wanna listen to her.
 
sweet princess said:
He was convicted of indesent liberties on 9/15/04. He was released on 1/23/06. The girl he was dating was one of my friends, after she made those accusations, i quit being her friend. I couldn't stand to be anywhere near her, that's how mad i was at her. She tried to tell me what Seth did to her, but i didn't wanna listen to her.
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Indecent liberties seems kind of hard to prove in court. However did she manage that? How old was he/how old was she? Maybe that had a part in "convincing" the jury. Still, sad to hear about your love going through that. =(
 
Absolutely I do. I am living proof of it. It's a long story, but let's just say I met my husband almost three years ago and we've been married two out of those 3 years. Love at first sight may not be possible for you or someone else, but it's real and it is possible for others out there (like me).
 
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