No one understands how this painful this is.

[Tamou]

Except you guys. All my friends think I'm over reacting and that it's insane how bad I hurt. They say it's crazy because he was 'just a singer'. I tell them that unless they were a die hard fan, they'll never understand. Then they just go on about how that's bullsh** and stuff. It really hurts, because I have no one to talk to except you guys.
You know how I feel, right?
How can I explain to them the pain?

 

[Shamonee]

Watch one of his concert DVDs with them and try and spread the wisdom of MJ-Mania.
They will pick up on it soon enough .
x

 

[swirly]

Unless you are another fan, unfortunately there are very few people who will understand. But, you can rest assured that EVERYONE on here understands you and a lot of us are in the same boat as you We are all here to support each other :hug:

 

[Tamou]

Thank you guys.
My 'friend' is pretty much attacking me over Michael... I said that Michael replaced the father daughter bond I never had with my father (I'm 15). He never really did anything for me. I mean, he fed me, which is important, but he'd never take the time to play with me or listen. And Michael replaced that part of my heart that was missing, so my friend is saying I'm insane and that I'll cry more when my dad dies. You know what, maybe I will, and maybe I won't. But right now, Michael just died, and all I need is support which I'm not gaining from him. Now he's going on about how he was a, well you know, I just can't believe how ignorant people are! It's so hard to Heal The World and be kind to them, it really tears me apart. My heart hurts so bad.

 

[bewitched]

I feel very sad about Michaels passing and I wasn't really a fan so I think what the die hard fans must be feeling must be pretty dreadful. All I can say is that this to will be pass.

Take care

 

[xthunderx2]

i know it is very difficult right now. But it will get better I promise, you have to go through the steps of the grieving process. It just takes time. it is different for everyone. on how long it takes. I know that the first year is the worst. whether you lost a family member, a pet, or a friend or even your wallet a loss is a loss.

 

[GenineLovesMJ]

Except you guys. All my friends think I'm over reacting and that it's insane how bad I hurt. They say it's crazy because he was 'just a singer'. I tell them that unless they were a die hard fan, they'll never understand. Then they just go on about how that's bullsh** and stuff. It really hurts, because I have no one to talk to except you guys.
You know how I feel, right?
How can I explain to them the pain?

I know what you mean. Even people I know who claimed to be "fans" I'm finding don't understand how hard this is for me. I guess they just didn't love Michael as much as they tell me they did? Or I just loved him too much? I don't know. My family doesn't understand either, they seem to think I'm crazy because I'm crying so much over this. Which frankly just makes me angry at them. I'm glad there are people here I can relate to, I just wish I had someone I could share my feelings with in person without judgment or raised eyebrows. My point though, is, that you are not alone! *hugs*

 

[Angie85]

We understand. It still hurts so bad that he's gone. It hurts - and I cling on to what I have to to keep my spirits up. I feel lucky that I'm able to do that, but I deeply sympathize with those who are having a difficult time. I still cry about it when I see something that moves me. And I think I still will for a long time, and I've accepted that.

People around me don't understand, either. I don't care much about that. I keep most of my tears to myself, and when someone does happen to be there, I let them judge me if they want - but I trust that I've been a good enough friend and person for them to see that it's genuine, and it's okay. You have to trust that, you can't judge yourself before others do. Remind yourself that you're a good person, and you're allowed to mourn this no matter what people say.