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My mom hate the fact that im a mj fan

Kribre 7---you certainly are not the only one that this happens to---and just be proud of the fact that YOU are wiser and better than your Mom and anyone else who condemns Michael--just from what they have heard/read on tv/magazines/tabloids/etc.
If they want to be so negative about Michael---and not even listen to anything you can tell her---then YOU are the better person.
Unfortunately, you will have to do as you already are---and enjoy Michael on your own.
Dawn
 
dearest kribre7. It really makes me feel so sad when I read you story, but you have to think like this:

your mom is affected by the media. everything that happened back then could be drawn against michael, and for people who's not a fan of him it could very well look as if it was the truth. If your mom truly believes that he's a molester and all that crap then it will take a lot of her time and patience to make her see the truth.

If she doesent want to see any of the that all you can do is to accept the way she feels, and let her know that you do that. In that way she maybe come to think about how YOU feel and that she should maybe accept that, and trust that her daughter would not be fan of a man that she believed where a molester.

Now my own mother has this kind of open mind towards michael jackson, but still - when I want to talk to her or other people about my idol I always start out slowly by asking them where they stand in these rumors. And if they believe that he's a !¤#%&%¤& and all those words that they say, that Michael Jackson probably would'nt even put in he's own mouth - then I simply stop talking about him.

I know that this can be hard when it's your parrent, but I'm shure that if you have patience with her, she will slowly begin to accept it and maybe even begin to rethink her views on him.

But remember that YOU are the one who chose to believe in the good in a person, and thats a very good thing to do, and your mom should be proud of that :)
 
kribre7 said:
Out of all the people that I told,My mom is the one that judges me the the most.
People at my school dont event judge me like she does.
Like she brings up that he is a molester and A fagot.I tell her that none of that stuff is true,I even give prof and stuff like that,she come to me with (tabloid prof) and says that shes right.She also jokes about how I need to see a doctor and that she need to take me to her work (she works with High level mentally special clients). Or "Are you on the computer looking at that fagot."or something on the lines of that.We got in a argument one time she called me gullible for believing he didn't molest children.Then I called her shallow minded for believing tabloids and everything you see on Tv Then I stormed out of the room cause i couldn't take it anymore.I don't think she knows how much she hurts me when she says these things. If she really new she would probably stop. I cant even bring up mj without some thing negative coming out of anybody's mouth in my family.So I just don't speak about him to my family.

sorry if I spelled anything wrong.
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that is hard to take nevertheless it's you on the right way here obviously I think. Keep your mind open. Always sort facts from fiction and rumours!
Sometimes it's better to save that energy we're wasting on ppl who only believe what they want to believe. To those I think it only makes sense to prove to them you're right in just living a happy life and let them live theirs.

You will be confronted with ignorance more often... not only about Michael Jackson. Keep your mind open! Keep your heart open. That's how both will survive the longest and always make a good lovely person out of yourself. And believe me that's the happiest way to live life.

Yes it does hurt when ppl who should love you and that's why respect you the most, do present such a ignorance towards you and ppl you chose to be important in your life.
Those you can't that easily just leave. But ignorant ppl do carry some bitterness with them, always. You can try to understand that cuz it makes it easier to deal with it. Don't feel sorry for them. It is their choice, they could know better, but it helps to look deeper into it and maybe understand their troubles and tribulations.

Just know always you can only change the 'man in the mirror's way.
 
Honey just go by with what u feel is right & what u belive!
My family dont like michael either, but they know im not gonna change for them OR ANYONE!

Michael is apart of of who i am and if no one likes it...THEN TOUGH LUCK FOR THEM!
i''ll always be a fan of mike no matter what ppl say or think. Dont change for anyone or anything sweetie, i know it hards sometimes but all that matters is what your heart is telling u and go by that!
 
Aww sweetie i know how u feel
But u know what, its ur life hun do what u want.....dont let anyone bring u down!
Look at mike, he had so many ppl bringing him down, but HE ALWAYS COMES UP TOP!
Learn from his strength and i promise u it will help :)
 
that's true you're not alone cause my family do the some too they say to me that we're just joking :no: you're not i cry my heart out all the time so you're not alone o.k :yes: :)
but my uncle support MJ all the time sometimes my father call him for talking to wish him a merry christmas on christmas day he always talk to me first and ask me what i what in MJ stuff i don't have the problem is that he doesn't let me pay him back form all this MJ stuff i get from him :yes: :heart: so my uncle is so sweet and wounderfull and he say to me that if MJ coming to nyc for concert or whatever he'll make sure he get me to nyc :yes: :jump: i love my uncle more then my father sorry to say that but is true my father is so mean about MJ :yes: :cry:
so you're not alone :) :heart:

if i hear someone talk about anything mean about MJ i give them a mean look and i'm sayying bad words to them in my head :lol: is true :yes:
 
kribre7 said:
Thank you guys for the advice.
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anytime :)

kribre7 said:
I know, but Its so weird cause they think its some kind of phase like im going to stop liking him because they say so.
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let them believe whatever they want to believe. I know how you feel. It's the same thing over and over again with teenagers and their parrents :). They always think that things are a "phase". Some things may be but some things are not!

you being fan of Michael Jackson or any other artist is your choise and it's something you do for yourself. Because you like the music and the person behind it. Ofcourse it would be nice if your friends and family would at least not think bad thoughts of your idol. But your not the only MJ fan that has this problem unfortunately.

Parrents sometimes need to learn (hehe :)) how to manage that their kids are growing up and making choises that maybe they would'nt do themselves. At the bottom your mom only "hate" that you're fan of Michael Jackson because she loves you, and because she doesent know any better about him than what she heard in the media.

But when I feel down about something it always helps me to listen to my favorite MJ music, and look around at this forum (or the danish MJ forum), because here we all share a bond - based on good music, good feelings and if you really listens to the lyrics - also a love for the world and a love for the music. And that can only make you happy to be a part of :)
 
kribre7 said:
Out of all the people that I told,My mom is the one that judges me the the most.
People at my school dont event judge me like she does.
Like she brings up that he is a molester and A fagot.I tell her that none of that stuff is true,I even give prof and stuff like that,she come to me with (tabloid prof) and says that shes right.She also jokes about how I need to see a doctor and that she need to take me to her work (she works with High level mentally special clients). Or "Are you on the computer looking at that fagot."or something on the lines of that.We got in a argument one time she called me gullible for believing he didn't molest children.Then I called her shallow minded for believing tabloids and everything you see on Tv Then I stormed out of the room cause i couldn't take it anymore.I don't think she knows how much she hurts me when she says these things. If she really new she would probably stop. I cant even bring up mj without some thing negative coming out of anybody's mouth in my family.So I just don't speak about him to my family.

sorry if I spelled anything wrong.
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Your mom sounds like a character lol.
 
I know how you feel. My brother and mom were making fun of MJ, and how much of a fan I am. My mom said it was cute when u liked him as a litle kid, but now that he's a molester u don't want to scare ur friends away. I was just hurt, and it was totally uncalled for. But oyu know I dont care they can believe hat they want. I know the truth and thats all that matters.
 
Mechi said:
that is hard to take nevertheless it's you on the right way here obviously I think. Keep your mind open. Always sort facts from fiction and rumours!
Sometimes it's better to save that energy we're wasting on ppl who only believe what they want to believe. To those I think it only makes sense to prove to them you're right in just living a happy life and let them live theirs.

You will be confronted with ignorance more often... not only about Michael Jackson. Keep your mind open! Keep your heart open. That's how both will survive the longest and always make a good lovely person out of yourself. And believe me that's the happiest way to live life.

Yes it does hurt when ppl who should love you and that's why respect you the most, do present such a ignorance towards you and ppl you chose to be important in your life.
Those you can't that easily just leave. But ignorant ppl do carry some bitterness with them, always. You can try to understand that cuz it makes it easier to deal with it. Don't feel sorry for them. It is their choice, they could know better, but it helps to look deeper into it and maybe understand their troubles and tribulations.

Just know always you can only change the 'man in the mirror's way.
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I agree with everything you just wrote. I have been in a similar situation not with just family
But work colleagues as well. It used to really hurt me but over the years I have learned to ignore it because I know those people will never change and it doesn’t matter what I say.
 
I'd say, if you've done everything you can to convince them (family, friends, co-workers) and it goes nowhere, that you could have an "agreement." Agree not to discuss Michael, at all. Tell them that their attitude hurts you and those discussions are off-limits, and agree to disagree. If the discussions start up anyway, just walk away. It works. They WILL stop.

Vic
 
My mom used to hate that I'm a MJ fan. She probably still does, but she doesn't vocalize it anymore. She would tell people that the only bad thing about me was that I liked Michael Jackson. :rant: And she would say that she believed that he was sick and needed "help."

Now she tries to update me with Michael news when she hears it. When all the rumours were flying about that Michael was dying of some illness, we had a conversation about it (I of course told her that it was absolute rubbish.) When Michael's appearance on the World Music Awards was rerun early last year, she called me to tell me that it was on. And she brought home a copy of the Ebony magazine with Michael on the cover that she had 'snitched' from a doctor's office. It was in really good condition, too :)
 
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