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I love this forum and its people and i am ok with posting something like this. In the past i've received good and well meant advice, so i immediately thought of posting it here.
So i am almost 34, i still feel young...hell 34 IS young, but i feel like i am stuck in life when it comes to finding a nice lady to be with and you know, maybe eventually get into a serious relationship. I am not ashamed to say that it's been since February 2008 that i haven't been in a serious relationship anymore. I've tried dating...well barely, just a bit and when the particular lady wasn't interested or already seeing someone i just gave up for months and months.
But it's definitely something i miss and crave for more and more. The simple but oh so important things when you are seeing someone nice. Sitting on the couch together, cuddling, watching a movie, holding eachother. It feels like an eternity, actually kinda is, that i've done that. Last time i've done that was in 2007 and that relationship ended on February 2008th. I still loved her, hell i was fully in love with her but she had started to see me more as a brother or great friend. But i miss that stuff, being close to a woman. So naturally you'd think i'd do all i can to make this happen, but not at all. Oh in 2014 there was one time that i had befriended a girl and she had been giving me all kinds of signals, so one evening during a movie i put my arm around her but long story short...she was giving me false signals and thus false hope. All very unfortunete, but ah well.
Despite my brother constantly telling me i really should sign up with at least one dating site, i just don't do it. I also don't really go out a lot. I go out three or four times a day for my dog and i do groceries shopping of course. I am someone who really manages very well on his own, but that way i won't ever find a nice lady to be on my side. No friends anywhere close means no going out for me either. But i feel it's time to quit with that nonsense and put some actual effort into it. But where do i start? Thinking about how long it has been really lowers my self esteem, it really does and that in turn makes me just decide...nah....it's ok like this. I am not even necessarily looking for a serious full on relationship, just someone nice to be with and we'll see how it goes from there.
Any kind of advice will be greatly appreciated.
So i am almost 34, i still feel young...hell 34 IS young, but i feel like i am stuck in life when it comes to finding a nice lady to be with and you know, maybe eventually get into a serious relationship. I am not ashamed to say that it's been since February 2008 that i haven't been in a serious relationship anymore. I've tried dating...well barely, just a bit and when the particular lady wasn't interested or already seeing someone i just gave up for months and months.
But it's definitely something i miss and crave for more and more. The simple but oh so important things when you are seeing someone nice. Sitting on the couch together, cuddling, watching a movie, holding eachother. It feels like an eternity, actually kinda is, that i've done that. Last time i've done that was in 2007 and that relationship ended on February 2008th. I still loved her, hell i was fully in love with her but she had started to see me more as a brother or great friend. But i miss that stuff, being close to a woman. So naturally you'd think i'd do all i can to make this happen, but not at all. Oh in 2014 there was one time that i had befriended a girl and she had been giving me all kinds of signals, so one evening during a movie i put my arm around her but long story short...she was giving me false signals and thus false hope. All very unfortunete, but ah well.
Despite my brother constantly telling me i really should sign up with at least one dating site, i just don't do it. I also don't really go out a lot. I go out three or four times a day for my dog and i do groceries shopping of course. I am someone who really manages very well on his own, but that way i won't ever find a nice lady to be on my side. No friends anywhere close means no going out for me either. But i feel it's time to quit with that nonsense and put some actual effort into it. But where do i start? Thinking about how long it has been really lowers my self esteem, it really does and that in turn makes me just decide...nah....it's ok like this. I am not even necessarily looking for a serious full on relationship, just someone nice to be with and we'll see how it goes from there.
Any kind of advice will be greatly appreciated.