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BOY dad Alfie Patten yesterday admitted he does not know how much nappies cost — but said: “I think it’s a lot.”

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.
He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.

“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.”

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Little family ... Alfie, Chantelle and baby Maisie

Lee Thompson


Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: “When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.
“I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”
Alfie's story, broken exclusively by The Sun today has sparked a huge political storm with Tory leader David Cameron saying: "When I saw these pictures this morning, I just thought how worrying that in Britain today children are having children.
"I hope that somehow these children grow up into responsible parents but the truth is parenthood is just not something they should be thinking about right now."

PM Gordon Brown refused to comment directly on the story but said it was important that the Government did all it could to prevent teenage pregnancies.
Alfie’s dad Dennis yesterday told how the lad does not really understand the enormity of his situation — but seemed desperate to be a devoted and responsible father.
He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.
And Dennis, 45, said: “He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.”
Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie — just 12 at the time — had a single night of unprotected sex.
They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.
But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelle’s mum Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.



After that Alfie’s family told only those closest to them for fear he would be “demonised” at school.

Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

Last night she told The Sun: “I’m tired after the birth. I was nervous after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.”

Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her GP with “really bad” stomach pains. She said: “Me and Alfie went. The doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started crying and didn’t know what to do.

“He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.

“We didn’t think we would need help from our parents. You don’t really think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think your parents will kill you.”

But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

Chantelle admitted she and Alfie — who are both being supported by their parents — would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She said: “We know we made a mistake but I wouldn’t change it now. We will be good loving parents.

“I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.

“I’ll be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.”

Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.

He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.

Alfie’s dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

He said: “Everyone is telling him things and it’s going round in his head. It hasn’t really dawned on him. He hasn’t got a clue of what the baby means and can’t explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad will help.

“When you mention money his eyes look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. It’s crazy. They have no idea what lies ahead.”

Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as “a typical 13-year-old boy”.

He said: “He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United.” Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was “gobsmacked” when he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

He said: “When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first time he’d had sex, that he didn’t know what he was doing and of the complications that could come.

“I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it’s too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.”

Chantelle’s mum said: “I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already so it’s a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will pull together and get through.

“She’s my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.”

Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

“At the same time this is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows the policy of value-free sex education just isn’t working.”
Today Sussex Police and the local council's children services said they have investigated the case and pledged continued support for the young parents.
Britain’s youngest known father is Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door, 15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998. They split six months later.

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece

This is sick, she looks old enough to be his mother :puke:
 
This is sick, she looks old enough to be his mother :puke:



well she can't help that.. but she's only 2 years older than him

this is crazy though :no: they clearly dont have a clue about the responsibility ahead of them... and her home life doesn't sound that crash hot either...
 
:ph34r: when I read about this I was like uh:bugeyed. This sh*t shouldn't happen. This only shows how important it is to parents/teachers talk about sex with kids. Tell how things really are.

The youngest (ever?) to become a father was reportedly a 9 year-old.
 
I don't think this is anything shocking. The part that makes it most uncomfortable is that the father looks way younger than 13 (and 13 is already an incredibly young age to have a baby anyway). It looks more like a 7 year-old having a child, which is why that picture is so troubling. If he was more developed physically, I don't think this would be "news." It happens every day, and I'm not saying that to undermine the problem either.

I will say that I find these kids' attitude after the mistake to be respectable, albeit naive.
 
I'm not gonna be their judge, but I think the story is a little sad. Think about the little girls future. This couple is probably going to grow apart and how would you feel if you where 10 and your father was 23? What would you have to look up to? How are you supposed to know what the difference between adult and childhood is, when you're parrents are only children/teenagers your whole childhood?

I hope that the parrents of this couple is going to help them VERY much.. They are going to miss out on a lot of things if not :(
 
That boy looks younger than my 9 and 10 year old. That's really sad that they just don't have a clue. Abortion isn't the answer. Education is. Parents think they don't need to do the birds and the bees until their kids reach their ages at the time and that's just ignorant. Kids today are way earlier at thinking along those lines than we were. Society sucks for the future generations.
 
Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

This makes me sick. It's because of charities like these, and because of religion, and because parents are dumb enough to not teach their child sex education, that children go into orphanages and dont live a great life. Are stuck going to foster home to foster home. Because Abortion is killing a life. Well I believe in these types of situation it's actually saving a life from a life like this. With parents who are not responsible,going to foster home to foster home. It's horrible for the child. This story just angers me.
 
Shieeet... I see this story everywhere and it's always such a shocker with "boy 13", what about the girl that's 15?

If we're gonna get a little bit shallow for a second, it looks like he's sitting beside his mother, not his uhm... mother of his child.
 
I just think it is awful. I mean, good on them for not aborting the baby or whatever, but there are some circumstances where it is the best option, and surely being just 12years old is a good one. I'm 19 and couldn't face the thought of it for a good number of years yet.

But good luck to them, they'll need it =/
 
Abortion isn't so taboo now eh..?

yeah, it is to me. are u automatically condemning their future? notice the christians didn't condemn them for their act, in this article. they just said, the education system is not working. there isn't a cookie cutter future carved out for everybody..except for the fact that it's unknown. he can grow up and teach based on his situation. he can get past the initial act. but he doesn't look scarred. but what he cannot teach is how to get rid of the emptiness and the voices in your head, at night, when you are alone, after an abortion, no matter how other people spin it. there are people who had abortions who say that they heard the voice of the child, long afterwards. 13 is way to young for that emptiness and for hearing those voices. now that would be scarring.

other than that..all i have to say is..why did the sun have to be the first to report it? lol...
now it will make the Sun look more legitimate.
 
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For me it's like, he shouldn't even have sex to begin with. 13 and 15 are very different.

But what to do? I guess they will have a lot of support, but I feel that something have been taken away from them; their childhood. They are moving into adulthood too soon.
 
Im shocked!
That boy looks like his 7 years old or something!
Parents and teachers should be teaching their kids about sex, some parents are just afraid to do it, cause they dont want their little-ones to grow up. That was the case with my mom and dad, but fortunately I learned about it in school.. So no worries, nothing ever happend to me :p
 
Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

This makes me sick. It's because of charities like these, and because of religion, and because parents are dumb enough to not teach their child sex education, that children go into orphanages and dont live a great life. Are stuck going to foster home to foster home. Because Abortion is killing a life. Well I believe in these types of situation it's actually saving a life from a life like this. With parents who are not responsible,going to foster home to foster home. It's horrible for the child. This story just angers me.

Bravo:) Finally someone who thinks like me! I agree that sometimes abortion is a good solution. These 'parents' are uncapable of parenting a child, for God's sake!
 
thats kinda sad but i wish them all the best.whats done is done in this case but i hope the societies can learn from such incidents and make progress.
 
Oh my God! That's just awful...

Though, I shouldn't be that surprised because in Hungary there was a girl who gave birth to a child at 11!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :bugeyed
 
This story breaks my heart. I only hope that the baby is well loved and looked after, and that she has some stability in her life. I'm 21 and have no intention of having children for at least another 7 years!
 
The story is not actually that shocking until you see the picture. Like, a thirteen year old having sex is at least understandable. I can remember when I was 13, I thought about having sex. I just didn't get as lucky as this kid. Or is he lucky? I don't know, it didn't turn out the way he planned I bet. But once you come to terms with a 13-year-old having sex, OK that seems understandable, you look at the picture and he looks so goddamn young. If I didn't know his age, I'd say 7 or 8. And then on the other hand, she looks older than 15. She looks like his mother. Why'd she even have sex with someone who looks so young. Anyway, this story is pretty strange but not really.
 
my heart dropped when I read this. I dont think sex education is needed in school...its all around why stir up a childs curiosity even more, as in here, and have this happen? They both heard about it in school didnt they? oooh sounds like fun. wonder what its like. but they dive into it blind.

why parrents and NOT school? if you hear it from your parrents, one you hear it from someone who loves you(i would hope lol), and..if the kids are raised right...you feel an emotional, trusting bond so you feel at peace to ask questions you would probably feel more embaressed to ask a teacher in front of a class, which means you would get more ansers and you would learn more...most likely. Parrents can also be serious and stern with their kids(without scaring them)to let them know about the seriousness of the situation, at school you have to make everything fun and enjoyable...including sex. sex to kids looking like fun. that sound like a good thing? This while at the same time letting them know they arnt gonna die if they do make a mistake.

I cant help but think...the cavemen did this why cant we? Well the cavemans life was less complicated, their wasnt such a thing as money, the caveman wouldnt be viewed strangely since this was considered normal to them...and Im afraid of the child getting picked on somehow, moreso the parrents! I dont see how 11 and 12 year olds raised children back then...it just floors me. like I said before tho, im sure the absince of money amoung other things made it a bit easier.

A Life > a choice. its worth more every time. ever heard the line, "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger?"

thats my thoughts. It scares me so deeply to even think of this becoming normal years from now...i mean children raising children! those would be some pretty immature adults.
 
Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

This makes me sick. It's because of charities like these, and because of religion, and because parents are dumb enough to not teach their child sex education, that children go into orphanages and dont live a great life. Are stuck going to foster home to foster home. Because Abortion is killing a life. Well I believe in these types of situation it's actually saving a life from a life like this. With parents who are not responsible,going to foster home to foster home. It's horrible for the child. This story just angers me.

I dont know what you find so sick about Aston's comments. Its quite obvious that the girl and the boy wanted the baby. Having the child forcibly aborted would have been sick in my opinion.

Like Shannon said, abortion is not the answer. I dont like blaming people for what they do with their lives, but the parents and we as society as a whole have to be more responsible in teaching our kids about the pros and cons of sex.

I hope the boy, the girl and the baby have a good life ahead.
 
I dont know what you find so sick about Aston's comments. Its quite obvious that the girl and the boy wanted the baby. Having the child forcibly aborted would have been sick in my opinion.

Like Shannon said, abortion is not the answer. I dont like blaming people for what they do with their lives, but the parents and we as society as a whole have to be more responsible in teaching our kids about the pros and cons of sex.

I hope the boy, the girl and the baby have a good life ahead.

agreed. I can see where youre coming from Gisselle it made me feel uneasy reading that praise just because some pro life groups arnt...er..that kind. But you can never throw a baby away. do what you can, ALL you can for the baby to be happy and to develop well. its the best you can do, and GOD gives us the grace to overcome(I dont know youre beliefs...but those are mine ;))
 
This wouldn't be news if he looked his age. Things like this happen too often. People need to teach their children about safe sex.
 
This wouldn't be news if he looked his age. Things like this happen too often. People need to teach their children about safe sex.


There is no such thing as "safe sex"!

No protection is 100% and there is certainly no protection against a broken heart!

Safe sex is just media garbage.
 
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