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Morning after

"Morning after"

Written by Daz, Inspired by MJ
Section: Reflections

Every trauma and every loss leaves a scar.
Does the scar heal?
Yeah though it still shows like a wrinkled piece of paper.
The mission is not to drown but ride the waves edged into your life

Dear readers,
I hope you are all well and enjoy this beautiful weekend but
if there are clouds in your life, know they won't stay forever.
It's time for another reflection cause
I don't want that June slips by without a word of solace and
encouragement from my part.

"Everyone needs words of solace and encouragement"

I named this reflection the 'Morning after' cause
when something BAD happens to you,
everyone is there to help and offer their guidance but
what happens the 'morning after' or even years later.

"Scars are only signs that you survived the battle of life"

Every trauma and every loss leaves a scar.
Does the scar heal?
Yeah though it still shows like a wrinkled piece of paper.
The mission is not to drown but ride the waves edged into your life.

"Don't stand on the beach, ride the waves"

Here, I'd like to offer you some 'useful' tips of how
you can cope with the 'morning after' the event that
changed your life. Maybe, it won't even work like a charm but
I hope it does give you courage to 'start again'.

"Tomorrow is another day to begin again"

Find a 'support group' that will allow you to talk endlessly about
what bothers you and soon you'll see you are not alone.
People in grief can bound together cause they know how
it feels to have lost someone dear.

"Share your grief and lighten your load"

Get active!
It seems 'crazy' at first when you're down and out but
it does wonders for your cluttered brain that is like
living in a haze.

"Butt out that chair"

If you think you're not ready for another challenge, then just
imagine 'telling' your lost loved one that is indeed
watching over you, you do it in his/her name to make
him/her proud. It could be as silly as
a new sport you plunge into,
a new creative hobby or even do volunteer work.

"Live your passion"

What works for me like a charm is "schedule"
as long as I have my schedule/planning where
every chore and passion has its space, I feel okay.
I feel I make my lost loved one proud cause
the last thing he wants is for me to mourn him forever.

"If you fail to plan, you plan to fail"

The 'misconception' of moving on or acceptance is NOT that
you forget the pain and the missing.
Its about transforming the hurt into a 'controlled' bliss.

"Find the child, it's hiding in you"

Okay avoid the triggers if that means you can heal.
That's okay, this is not written in stone.
Everyone carries it differently and there
should NOT be any 'guide' that you have to follow to heal.
Grief has its own pace, roll with it and
accept it needs time and hope.

"Grief is the invisible cord you can't clip"

Then, when you feel you can 'embrace' a new life,
get a pet or even plant a seed and nurture the seedling like
he is your baby. I'm sure, it'll give you a reason to
get up in the morning.

" Behold the miracle of life"

Above all, don't be too hard on yourself.
Grief is the price we pay for loving someone though
it connects us with the finer things in life.

"Carpe diem, seize your life and live in the moment."

~ Copyright 2015 ~

Daz